Do you like the person you’ve become?

I never understood how people could have a fight and instantaneously they hate each other. I have seen best friends torn apart over one little argument. Did you not realize that you didn’t agree on certain things when you became friends? How do you stay friends with someone for years and over one petty fight fuelled by jealousy and greed you decide that person is not worth being in your life anymore?

I have taken countless amounts of abuse from some people and I stick around because I think that I can’t possibly give up that easily, can I? I wonder how it is decided when a friendship ends? How is this designated as the end? I have two friends who had been friends for about 7 years, met in high school and never looked back, now they don’t talk and they refuse to suck up their pride and try to talk. It saddens me because I feel that the reason they fought was a silly reason to fight but females are silly and that is what we do. We yell when talking is enough. We hurt someone when accepting their confession of guilt is enough. We cry when walking away is enough.

The human race are a bunch of drama queens that extend their hands of friendship to every soul that they meet but withdraw their hand just as quickly when the going gets tough. Here is thought, why don’t you decide that this is a lifetime commitment when you make the connection with this person? Remain calm and quiet. Stick your feelers out there and decide whether this person is someone you can trust, it is not that hard. Here is another thought, when you have your first fight, don’t walk away. People do not get divorced over one fight; it is not that easy to let go of someone unless they never meant a thing to you in the first place. Why cant you just commit to making it work? I mean you don’t need to be their “everything”, you don’t need to be the be all and end all to this person, but if you cannot be nice, the least you could do is to not be ugly. If you cannot help their life in any way and you cannot enrich their being then by all means do not try. You also need to commit to not making anything worse, to not damaging them in any way and to not offering them empty promises.

Be a human being and realize that there are billions of us on this planet all fighting for the same thing. To be happy. If you aren’t happy then continue on your journey to be happy. If you are happy then find someone who isn’t and help him or her. If we were meant to be selfish then God would have put one person on this planet and only one. If we were meant to wreck all that we have then God would have left us with nothing. If we were meant to feel hate so easily then God would never have given us the ability to love. Yes, loving is hard, but hate ruins your soul and makes you just as tired. Loving someone is sometimes easier because it can be done from a distance, hate may start from a distance but it almost always ends up consuming you.

So step one, figure out if this new friendship is going to work for you. If not then move on quickly and quietly. If it does work for you then never let it go over something silly. If it doesn’t work for you then decide then and there that you will never cast a bad stone near them. You will just let them alone to be a human, like you, and find happiness somewhere else. If they are mean to you then accept the hurt and move on. Don’t assume that they need some hurt hurled back at them. You are going to inevitably ask yourself in twenty years, “Do you like the person you’ve become?” Do you really want that answer to be no?